Hey all…

I actually really enjoy coming up with titles for my blogs, it’s one of my favourite parts.

Today will be a short one as I went camping on the weekend and I am still behind on the work I had missed because I took time off… HEAVENS! SHE TOOK A HOLIDAY! :P

This is a topic that comes up pretty frequently for me in conversation.

Sexual education.

It stuns me frequently how poorly educated about sexual health some people are.

Nearly every single time I hang out with my friends at least one of them asks me a question about sexual health and sexual mental health.

What shocks me even more, is that this lack of education has led to a lack of respect between persons engaging in sex.
The thing I would like to point out mostly is one that has been in our media frequently recently.
The Steubenville rape trial.
During the investigation, a few people noted that there were quite a few witnesses to this incident… And what struck me and quite a few other people is that none of them stepped in to stop the actions of those two young men.
When asked why they did not stop the event from occurring they responded that they didn’t know they were doing anything wrong.

They did not know that what those young men were doing was rape.

This, in my opinion, has come from a lack of education about sex and sexuality.

For a group of people to not even know what rape is, is surely a sign that society has failed these young people.

Right here I want to acknowledge the fact that even if we introduce mandatory sexual education into schools, that rape will (sadly) still happen. Rapists will rape regardless of how much they know.
HOWEVER! It will go a long way to help prevent incidents like the Steubenville case from happening again.
Surely that means something to you.

We need to educate ourselves and our future generations not only about the functions of sex and reproduction, but we also need to ensure that we are teaching and learning about respectful sexual practices as well.
We need to teach the next generations that all peoples are equal and perfect and deserving of respect.

I’d like to point out that I am not a doctor or a nurse.
I do have a degree in Biology, and a back ground in the sex industry… PORNO! WOO!
But by no means am I an expert and if you have any concerns in relation to your sexual health you should definitely visit your doctor or even your local sexual health clinic.
(Just type “[insert town/city of choice here] sexual health clinic” into your search engine of choice – lets not kid ourselves, you’re going to use Google – and TA-DA! Clinic!)

Sorry it was so short today… I will write you something more awesome next week.

Lots of love,
Viola.

Hey there again!

I hope you all got the reference with the title of today’s blog…

Moving on.

I want to talk today about something that I am frequently asked.
We covered this topic in one of the videos that Angry Aussie, Eva and I made, but I am going to go into a little bit more detail here.

“What is the best technique to make a girl orgasm when having sex?”

Now, I am going to approach this topic from the stand point that the person you are having sex with is your lover or some one you are having regular casual sex with (a fuck buddy for lack of better words)
Not a one night stand.
The reason I am choosing to approach it this way is because in the setting of a one night stand, many more factors come into play. I will touch on this briefly at the end.

Lets get it on!

First up, stop calling her a girl… even in your own mind.
She is a woman.
The difference is a respect thing, and while it’s nice to feel respected by your lover, it also changes the way you view your sexual interaction with this person.
This is a woman!
Treat her with all the glory that is associated with the word ‘woman’.
Both ‘woman’ and ‘man’ are very powerful words and have a lot of history and mythology associated, regardless of your personal beliefs.

And the same goes for all you looking to please a gentleman friend out there, don’t think of your partner as just a “guy” or “one of the boys”.
No, men are emotionally sensitive creatures too (Don’t scoff, you are…) and a lot of the time ego comes into play quite heavily during sexual intercourse.
There needs to be mutual respect between lovers.

And don’t forget to respect the gender with which your chosen lover identifies!
It may look like fire, it even feel like fire, but if that fire tells you it is ice, that it their choice to make. They are ice.
Respect their choice :)

Secondly, by having open and honest conversation.
I really cannot stress the word ‘honest’ enough.
If you are having sexual intercourse with your lover, and they do something that is uncomfortable or just not pleasing… Let them know!
Don’t be mean about it.
Don’t be like “Hey, you really suck at that… Don’t do that”
Instead give constructive instructions like “I like when you touch me like this” or “Just a little to the left/right/whatever”
AND THEN REACT!
Positive reactions, like a gasp for breath or a satisfied moan… or even just “Yes, I like that” will do so much more good for your sexual experiences than “I don’t like xyz”
POSITIVE RE-ENFORCEMENT! It’s good for you… and your sex life!
While you are showing them how you like to be touched, don’t forget to ask how they like to be touched.
Listen for their cues. Are they giving you tips for what they like? What noises are they making? What expression do they have on their face?
Often times, just by making positive comments and constructive instructions it will encourage your partner to do the same. By reaching out that way you are bridging a gap and making conversation okay.
REMEMBER! Like Andrew and Eva say in the video… You are rubbing your privates together, surely you can have a talk about it.

Last but not least…
WE ARE ALL INDIVIDUALS!
Seriously, you may have a lot of experience with sexual intercourse or not much at all… This fact is the great leveler.
Even if it you have only a little bit of experience, if you can follow the last two tips, you will be able to perform like a pro if you understand that every person is different and what works for one person, may not produce the same reaction for another.
For those with experience this part is often your downfall. Every person is different and what made your last lover curl their toes and scream out to the heavens may only get a shrug or a yawn from your new flame.
Each time you engage in sexual intercourse with a new lover, you need to start at scratch again.
Sex is not just about rubbing your goodies against each other.
Here is a fun example…
A woman I happen to know has incredibly sensitive nipples and can orgasm just from stimulating her nipples.
HOWEVER, she struggles to orgasm with just vaginal stimulation.
Me? I am the opposite. Playing with my nipples may produce a yawn from me. Really. It bores me, and does NOTHING for me… Want to see me orgasm? Vaginal stimulation is perfect for me.
Through respect and honest conversation… And taking on board their constructive instructions with an open mind, you should have no trouble at all achieving your desired results!

Now… One night stands…

This topic is quite tricky.
All I can say is that when consenting adults engage in a one night stand, there are MANY more factors involved than just having great sex.
There is potentially alcohol involved… Or it may just be two friends having a fling for an evening.
Alcohol dulls the senses and you may find something that usually works for you or your partner may do nothing this time. There is also the possibility that you may not be able to become aroused.
And if it’s two friends having a fling for an evening, there has probably been quite a bit of conversation already…
Having never done this myself (having a fling with a friend) all I can tell you is to keep communicating in a respectful way that is appropriate to your friendship and your situation.

Anyway, I hope this helps…
Keep in mind that I am just an individual talking about my own experiences, the advice that has been given to me and what works in my own opinion.
You need to explore what works for you and your chosen sexual partner.
Like I said, we are all individuals!

If you have any questions or topics you would like to read my opinion on, feel free to leave a comment.
If you have a sensitive question that you would like me to answer… send me a private message on Facebook.
Pinky-Swear not to tell everyone who asked! :P

Don’t forget to take a look at my YouTube channel and stalk me on Twitter!

Lots of love,
~ Viola xoxo

Hello there all…
Not sure how long this rant will go for, I brought a snack anyway… mmm, caramel popcorn…

Today’s rant is going to be about the concept of “paying for sex.”

In the time that I have spent as a stripper and even just in change rooms in shops, public bathrooms etc… I keep hearing the same rant.
“I heard so-and-so, like, totally went to a brothel. What a fucking loser/pervert that he has to, like, pay to have sex.”

*face palm*

These are usually the same people who just had the conversation about how they were “Sooooo going to get laid tonight!” all because they just had their hair done, and the nails manicured, and they waxed and bought a new dress…
I don’t know about you guys, but that sounds a lot like paying to have sex to me.

Lets work it out.

New hair (Colour and style cut) = ~$200-250
Manicure (Full set of acrylics) = ~$20-50
Wax (Brazilian, legs, armpits) = ~$100-150
New dress = ~$20-200

Total = ~$340-650

That’s a lot of money to spend if you’re going out to get laid…
Let’s not forget about the money you spent on your tan, cosmetics, entry to which ever venue you happen to be in, your drinks, dinner before you went out, taxi/public transport.

And let me remind you that the person you pick up could be the worst lay of your life, they aren’t a professional, not to mention the fact that you don’t know what kind of diseases they could have.
There is no mandatory sexual health test for the general public.
They may also prefer to not use a condom, and try and convince you not to use one too.

A professional sex worker will always use a condom and will have up-to-date sexual health tests.

Don’t forget about the guys giving their mates crap about going to see a sex worker.
“Can’t you pick up at a club like a normal guy?”

What’s “normal” guys?
Putting on you best outfit, doing your hair, paying for some person’s drinks in the hope that MAYBE they will consent to coming home with you?
The potential risk of you or your buddies getting so drunk one of you sexually assaults someone? Starts a fight? Gets you all kicked out?
What about they risk of STIs? Or unplanned pregnancy?

Sounds A LOT like you are paying for sex there buddy.

Maybe lay off your mate who is being responsible, having safe sex with someone who knows what they are doing.

It’s all sounding pretty pricey to me, to have all this unsafe sex and you can’t even be sure it’s going to be good sex.

And then, consider this…

If you take a person home with you for the purpose of having sex, they now know where you live.
You have given them access to your home, all of your possessions…
You may have even given them your phone number and they may choose to keep calling you…
They may even choose to Facebook stalk you, and find all your friends and family…

All things you don’t need to worry about when it comes to seeing sex workers.
Especially ones that operate out of brothels or choose to see clients in hotels/motels.

They will see you for a specified amount of time, help to fulfil your fantasies in a safe and honest environment, and then cease contact with you until you choose to contact them again.

Think about it this way.
Everyone pays for sex.
The only people who can be excluded from this statement are people who choose to remain celibate.
But how much are YOU paying for sex?

If you have any questions or wish to discuss this topic further, leave a comment below or come have a chat via my Twitter!

Lots of love,
~ Viola xoxo

Yes… I am going to tackle the subject of “Trolls”.

*Sigh*

The fact that a subject like Trolls even exists makes me want to quit life.
I don’t want to live on this planet any more.

I’d like to direct my rage in a specific a direction this time.

There is a HUGE difference between messing around with someone and being a bully.
Some one who teases online with out threat of harm is a troll.
As soon as you cross that line and threaten some one you are a bully.

These two terms should NEVER be confused.

EVER.

I’d like to highlight a recent issue…
Some of you may have witnessed early Friday morning, Angela White being harassed by one “@Chris50181720″.
For those who missed it, here is a screen cap.

Yes, that happened.
This disgusting coward spewed this utter filth in an attack on Angela.
I have had the absolute pleasure of meeting Angela White and she is not only stunningly beautiful, but she is also a beautiful person.
That aside, his words offended me.
The hate in them…

HOWEVER.

The thing that reignited my disgust the following morning was reading the replies.

Many people exclaimed their disgust, calling him “filth” and a “disgusting prick”.
Some people responded that it was wrong, but he was “clearly just a troll”.

This is not an example of a troll.

As you read the statement “clearly just a troll” you may feel, as I do when I read it, desensitised to the impact of the statement.
It blunts the blow.

This is not a blow that should be blunted.

This person, “Chris”, threatened to RAPE AND BEHEAD Angela.
He called her a “crack whore” and a “piece of shit fat pig”
He threatened to harm her.
He threatened to KILL her.

Regardless of the fact that these words were written on a screen via a social network, these aren’t gobbledegook words made up with no meaning.
These are words that if they were said to you face to face, even via the phone, maybe even by email, you would be frightened.
The transmission of these words has no effect on their meaning.

Fact of the matter is, you are reading words on a screen right now.
My words.
You may even be agreeing with them.
You don’t disregard my words because they are presented as a blog.
Not a hate filled message attacking a single person, intended to harm.
Think about it.

Anyone who witnesses this behaviour and disregards it as “trolling”, honestly, in my eyes you are no better than a person who sees someone beating on a child and says to themselves “but I’m sure they don’t actually mean to hurt them, they are just teasing”
Seriously.
If you feel that way, please, feel free to leave this blog now.
Unfollow me on Twitter, unfriend me on Facebook, unsubscribe from my YouTube.
Go.

Am I overreacting?
I don’t think so.

My comparison comes from the fact that a person who is attacked online is just as isolated and defenceless as a child.
How is a person who is attacked via Twitter able to defend themselves against an anonymous, faceless entity on the other side of an Internet connection?
By attacking some one in such a cowardly way, you are taking away a persons power.
And by labelling it as trolling, you are taking away their right to feel hurt.
You are taking away their right to seek justice.
You are taking away their power.

I would like you to take a minute to think about that.

What I’d like to leave you all with is a question.
‘Do you know the difference between a troll and a bully?’

If you have any more questions about this or any other subject, feel free to leave a comment :)
Also take a squizz at my Twitter and my YouTube channel!

Lots of love,
~ Viola xoxo

Hello internets!
Just a short one today.
A few weeks ago a (male) friend came to me to ask my opinion on Fleshlights and if they were degrading to women.
My answer was a clear and definite no.

The confusion arose for him when a female friend of his told him that she thought that Fleshlights were disgusting and that they were degrading to women.
This was rather confusing for him, and frankly her opinion is confusing for me too.

As a sex positive feminist I frequently find myself battling against the conservatives and their sometimes uneducated views.

The questions I pose to those people who are anti-Fleshlight is, How is using a Fleshlight any different from using a dildo?
What is the difference between a pseudo penis and a pseudo vagina?
Are you saying that it is okay for people to use pseudo penises for the means of sexual pleasure but not a vagina?
It’s hypocritical.

The woman who told my friend that Fleshlights were degrading to women is the owner of a dildo, and has had knowledge of my friend’s dildos for a number of years.

Sex toys are just that, toys.
They, in and of themselves, are not degrading to any gender.

If you own a Fleshlight or similar, don’t worry… go enjoy yourself! Have a good wank.
If you own a dildo, also don’t worry… Go spend the day in bed and have fun!

If you have any opinions or questions about this topic, feel free to leave a comment or come find me on Twitter!

Lots of love,
~ Viola xoxo

I wonder if anyone else follows the trends in porn over time???
This blog was inspired by something AngryAussie said to me a few days ago.

We were talking about how “Fake” some girls look in porn and that personally, to both of us, that the look they are going for is not attractive.

The current ‘popular’ trend seems to be teeny tiny girls with fake boobs who are hairless.
I have no problem with women who choose to present themselves that way. If that is what you want to do with your body, power to you.
But the point I’d like to make here is more that women with ‘natural’ bodies are becoming a fetish because they are not seen as often anymore.
I promote myself as a ‘natural’ woman because I have real breasts (meaning I have not had my breasts surgically ‘enhanced’) and I have hair in my pubic region (rocking a bush!).
Because of this I am frequently viewed with a shocked awe by the people who view my adult modeling work.
I am often told how “hot” it is that I have pubic hair and that my breasts are real.

From what I have seen, trends in body type seem to tick like a pendulum.
In the 60’s and 70’s a lot of pornography featured women and men who had a lot of body hair and little to no body ‘enhancements’.
Because this is the majority of what was available there was a transition during the 80’s and 90’s towards the ‘enhanced’ look.
Cosmetic surgeries were becoming more readily available to the public and it was also becoming safer and less taboo.
This progressed to a very stylised look for women in pornography.
I refuse to say that these women do not look good, because there are some amazingly beautiful women who present themselves that way.
But like ‘natural’ women now, back then ‘enhanced’ women were fetish too.
The ‘fetish’ became the norm and now the majority of pornography features ‘enhanced’ women and men and ‘natural’ looking women and men are becoming the fetish

What confuses me, from a detached point of view, is how ‘natural’ women can be a fetish? This is what women actually look like.
And like with a lot of fetishes, there is a lot of aggression that comes against it.
When I tell people or people comment about the fact that I have hair, I cop a lot of flack for it.
And sadly, most of that flack comes to me from women.
For reals.
A few months ago a twitter follower of mine tweeted (After viewing some of my work) that he had “never seen someone make a bushee monkey look so sexy”.
First of all… WTFLOL at “bushee monkey”…
Secondly… The responses blew me away!
One girl said that if they met someone with a “bushee monkey” they would have them “put down”.
Serious?
I chose not to enter the conversation that time but to the people out there that think that having pubic hair is a crime, I would like to say this…

Dear deluded people,
If you honestly believe that having pubic hair is a crime you should probably consider punishing yourself.
You can shave and wax and laser as much as you like. You have hair.
You have that hair for a reason. And if for some reason you chose to remove your hair and go “bald”, that is your choice.
I am happy for you to make that choice.
However, for you to turn around and tell me that I am some sort of freak for choosing to let my pubic hair grow, you have a problem.
That problem is that you are delusional.
Not only is this what is natural, but the fact that you think being a judgmental fool will change my choice is so far from the truth.
How about you spend less time worrying about what is in my pants, and start worrying about what is in yours.
Have a great day,
Try not to get ingrown hairs.
Lots of love,
~ Viola xoxo.

I know several people who chose to remove their body hair (Both male and female) and they are good about it.
They have made their choice, and I have made mine.
And they do not attack me for my choices.

I used to be one of the ones who removed my pubic hair. I used to keep myself clean shaven all the time, as some of you may remember.
These days I have chosen to rock a bush… and I am loving it.
It’s like the pet I can take with me anywhere! :P

At the end of the day all you need to know is that it is my choice, and I am happy that I made it.

If you have any comments or questions about this or any other topic, feel free to leave a comment or stalk me on Twitter!

Lots of love,
~ Viola xoxo

This blog is about something that happened to me last night (Or a little while ago when you read this).

I went out to a night club with my friends Brooke D James and Bradley Jolly for the SoundBytes night at La Di Da.
It was a super fun night dancing to all the chiptunes and all the DJs who played that night were fucking BOSS… Loves me some chiptunes.

It was a great night until a point.

That’s right. Yet again Viola is harassed in a night club.
The way the night panned out was that Brooke, Brad and I had a great time dancing around and meeting new people.
During the third DJs set we started talking to some guys.
(Big surprise it was a mostly male audience at a gaming related event)
They bought us a glass of champagne each, with out us asking or even them offering first (We would have said no, I buy my own drinks when I go out)
And we kept dancing.
One of the guys tried to separate me from the others to “dance” with me.
While he had pulled me away the second guy warned Brooke what the other guys game was.
He likes to get girls drunk and take advantage of them.
I did not know this yet as I was still separated from the rest.
The guy was making me very uncomfortable, touching me and commenting on my clothes “Why would [I] wear shorts? [I] should be wearing a skirt or dress.”
I told him to back off and went and found Brooke again.
She told me what the second guy had said and while the first guy was distracted we had to literally run from the venue.
This is not where it ended.
The first guy chased us for over three blocks before we could shake him off.

After I posted a tweet explaining what happened the next morning, a few (male) friends responded that they are sad that this happens to most of their female friends each time they go out and that they are sad when they cannot help them.

I want to say that I appreciate that there are decent guys out there who are willing to help and to support women when they have been or are being harassed.
Love you guys for it.

But I also want to point out that there are things that everyone can do to help stop this situation from happening again.

I’d like to give you an example of how this situation can go (sort of) right.

A few weeks ago I went to see The Living End perform live at the Corner Hotel in Richmond with some friends.
On my second night in the mosh pit, I had a hard time. The girl standing next to me punched me repeatedly in the kidneys and I took several hits to the head by crowd surfers. (Seriously, who the fuck crowd surfs on such a small freaking crowd? Dumbasses… That’s who)
Because I was near the front of the mosh, I couldn’t get back out so I had to get dragged out the front of the pit, and then because I was still ill from taking so many hits to the guts and head I chose to sit down near the female toilets so I could still hear the end of the concert and I was close to the loo’s in case I needed to be sick.
While I was sitting there getting my nausea under control a guy (I am loathe to call him a man) came up to me, grabbed the back of my head and started humping my face.
I punched him in the nuts, and came at him in full rage mode… Pretty sure I had horns coming out of my skull…
I asked him who the hell he thought he was doing something like that.
This is where his mate intervened and tried to get me to back off of his friend.
His excuse was “Don’t mind him, he’s drunk.”
WHAT… THE… FUCK… That is not an excuse.
If you cannot control yourself when you are drunk, you should not be drinking.
End of story.
I explained to this “friend” that being drunk is not an excuse and that by making excuses for him to sexually assault someone is making it okay for him to do it again, and again… When does it end? When he rapes someone?
I told him that he is just as bad as his friend is for allowing it to happen.

This is what you can do to help stop this from happening…
If you are hanging around your mates and you are all having a good time, and one of them says something that alludes to sexual assault, pull them up on it.
Do not let it become common and “okay” with your friends to be misogynists.
If one of your mates is getting rowdy and starts harassing a woman, and she is uncomfortable and needs to escape, help her.
Give her the chance to leave and tell your mate he is out of order.
If he is drunk, take him home and sober him up.
And don’t let him forget what he did.
He ruined some innocent woman’s night, and yours… Don’t let him do it again and make sure he is sorry for his actions.
If he continues to act in that way, as harsh as it sounds, maybe it’s time to reconsider your friendship.

Your silence helps no body.

If you have any comments or questions about this topic or any others, leave me a comment or hit me up via my Twitter!

Lots of love,
~ Viola xoxo

This is going to be one of those “Viola has an angry rant…” kinds of blogs.

Tonight’s topic is “Perpetuating negative stereotypes about the Adult Industry”.
(For those who watch AngryAussie on YouTube, we did a video on this topic recently with Eva)

I find as I interact with people, both online and offline, and that they say things that are actually incredibly offensive but no one reacts because it has fallen into such common usage. It has become “okay” to say demeaning things about people.

A few weeks ago I was out with a larger group of friends and one of them said that they would “never want to know a fucking ‘prozzie’ because they will knife [them] and steal [their] shit”
…
And no one even blinked.

To them, this was a perfectly valid assumption to make.

Well, needless to say, I didn’t just let that statement go.
I responded that his statement was a misogynist, over simplified statement referring only to the minority of people who work as sex workers.
I also made sure to point out that he had probably already met a sex worker or former sex worker but that because of misguided and unfounded statements like his they are probably too afraid to tell them that they are sex workers.
There are certainly people who work as sex workers that are not in ‘ideal’ situations, but like with all industries there are people who work in them that are not in ‘ideal’ situations.
There seems to be this barrier in between the general population and viewing the work of sex workers as anything other than a theoretical concept.
Like it is not something real.
It’s not a real job.

If you talk to any of the sex workers who participate in public forums like twitter (and there are a lot of them) and tell them that their work is invalid, you will get torn a new one by them.

If you talk to any of the comedians who participate in public forums like twitter (and there are a lot of them) and tell them that their work is invalid, you will get torn a new one by them.

If you are ever thinking something negative about the Adult Industry and sex workers, remove the “sex” from the statement and insert a different profession.

People who work in offices have bad days at work.

People who work in hospitality experience violence at work.

People who work in medicine are drug abusers.

People who work in government offices steal from people.

People who work in retail have STDs.

If you read the above five statements you will realise that they are true of any industry.
You will also realise that those four statements apply only to the minority of people who operate within these industries.

Why do the general population immediately jump to these conclusions about sex workers, and not any other industry?
Because the general population do not see sex workers as actual people let alone as valid contributing members of society.

If you hear some one around you saying something derogatory about people who work as sex workers, or any industry for that matter, SPEAK UP!
It starts with one person standing up for the rights of those around them to make a change.
Your silence will not change anything for anyone.
Be the change you want to see.

If you have a comment or question about this topic, feel free to leave a comment or hit me up on my Twitter!

Lots of love,
~ Viola xoxo

It’s true… I am so shallow, I am surprised I don’t reflect myself…
lol

Anyway, here is another way for you to enjoy my voice…
AND MY FACE! :P

My YouTube Channel! :D

Check it out, new videos will be uploaded every Friday.

Lot’s of love,
~ Viola xoxo

Hey there folks,

This blog is all about living in my new apartment with the delightful Ms. Brooke D James : )

As a lot of you know, I used to do cam shows on MFC and I know a lot of you are keen to have me come back.
You guys also know what a super babe Brooke is and are super keen for her to do some cam shows and maybe some cam shows with me.

I want to make it very clear, Brooke will NOT be appearing in ANY cam shows, including any with me.
And there is a very simple explanation for this.

Most folks see the Adult Industry in two lights:
A) Totally Awesome!
This is where you will find me and others like me.
People who enjoy porn, sex work and striping. The people who pop them selves under this banner like to both enjoy aspects of the Adult Industry and possibly even work within the Adult Industry.

B) Totally wrong!
This light makes me sad.
These are the people who disagree with all aspects of the Adult industry.
They do not believe that people can enjoy working in the Adult Industry and they think that people enjoying the Adult Industry is leading to the down fall of our society.
Some think this way for political reasons, some for religious reasons.
What ever their reason, it makes me sad they feel that way, but it is their choice.

HOWEVER!

These two lights might burn the brightest but there are many shades in between.
I’d like to take this opportunity to highlight one of these shades.

I like to call it: “People who support the Adult Industry but choose not to participate in it”
(I’m good at long titles… It’s a talent :P)

These are people like Brooke.
She supports my personal choice to participate in the Adult Industry.
She drives me to my shoots, she helps with sorting out my costumes, and she supports me emotionally while I work… which is not small feat in it self. This is not a easy industry to work in.
But, just like it is my choice to participate in the Adult Industry, it is her choice not to.
And that is totally fair.

What is not fair is when people assume that because she is a supporter of the Adult Industry assume and pressure her and people like her to participate in the Adult Industry.

No person should ever pressure another person to participate in the Adult Industry.

If a person chooses to participate in the Adult Industry, there are many avenues that they can walk down by themselves.
This is the kind of decision that a person can only make for themselves.
Any kind of pushing from any one else should be considered coercion. Plain and simple.

Don’t push unwilling participants into any activity that they chose not to be a part of.

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Lots of love,
~ Viola xoxo